Like everyone else on here, things are getting tougher, 6 times I have had to go to his house today, along with carers 4 times a day. Phone calls from the neighbours saying my dad is trembling and crying and doesnt know who he is or where he lives, they are getting fed up of helping now, and I cant blame them they have been brilliant, dad lives on his own (my lovely mum died last sept) and goes to day care 3 times a week, the other 4 days are horrendous, and I am starting to not like him even though I know its not his fault, my mum was the same, and sadly it got the better of her. My dad is lovely been a good dad, he would be mortified if he knew what he was putting us all through, but sometimes I just want to shout back at him etc. Am I doing him a dis service not considering a care home, I dont know, he needs communication and something to do all the time (like a child) and the loneliness and emptiness of his bungalow is making him worse, but then he would go mad if he was made to sit in a chair for any length of time, he is very mobile, and gets very agitated when sitting for more than 20 minutes, my husband has come to the end of his tether now, he works 10 hours a day and we have 4 grandchildren under 7 to help look after, my story is no different I know, but its good to talk (so to speak)