I am sorry for your loss and I know how hard this is. My Grandma died 9 months ago.
I always knew that I wanted to speak at my Nan's funeral. I wanted to do it because I thought I could do it better than anyone else (ie the vicar), I knew her and it was the last thing I could do for her. It also gave me something to focus on in those difficult days after she died and before the funeral.
I decided to talk about her and it wasn't easy to write, it wasn't easy to go through with it, but I did it for her (and me!). I felt so proud of her on the day and I know that she would have been proud too. I was also able to thank her carers which I felt strongly about.
My sister read a short poem.
Whether you decide to read a poem or speak yourself, please remember that everyone is supporting you, if you make a mistake it really doesn't mattter. I practiced it a lot so I knew it quite well which made it easier.
If you feel up to talking about her, speak to other people and gather stories together. Don't try and write it from start to finish, let it develop. I came up with the beginning at the end. That was the hardest bit. Search on the internet for ideas, it will help you start and give you some ideas.
Speaking at any funeral is a difficult thing to do, but also very rewarding. Doing it together is a lovely thing to do and you can support each other.
I would be happy to share what I said if you think it might help you.
Polly x
